Friday, September 21, 2012

On the Today Show

I was watching the Today show this morning. And one of the topic’s was how to let go of a friendship. It was interesting to me since I had just found this note on facebook. It was from someone I have known since I was 16 years old. Our path in life has been very different, so to blend our reality of life has been hard. But we have tried. On the show it shared the many ways people let go of the relationship. Some people confront, others just kind of fade away. Others stay in a toxic friendship because they do not want to hurt anyone. But whatever way they chose, it is painful.

This was the note I received after 51.

 May 6th 2012 001 click on note to read.

Why would I even share this….maybe because I am mad! Maybe because it hurts! Maybe because I hope it will help someone. But for whatever reason..this is her truth no matter how I feel. Did I fail this person? yes, because I could not be the person she needed me to be.



Ruth Kelly said...

How very hurtful! I cannot imagine writing such a note to anyone. My long time friend has made it clear to me that she no longer wants to be my friend by not responding to emails, phone calls, messages. I can't for the life of me figure out why she is mad at me but maybe it is like your past friend who became so hurtful. I think you are marvelous. Time for new friends.

Janet said...

There are times when no matter what we do we can't help someone but that doesn't mean we've failed.

I know you to be a good and kind person. Remember all the people who love you and all the friends who care for you. And let go of the others if they don't want to be friends anymore.

Journeyin' Lady... said...

Wow, that was a stinging message. I don't know the history of you but, that message was really quite rude and hurtful. I think I am of the "let the friendship/relationship fade away" method.
I also don't think it works to try and be the the person someone wants us to be - acceptable of differences in our relationships works in the long haul.
I hope you are able to place this hurt away to a locked place in your heart.

Kathy said...

I know this had to hurt you. I lost a friendship recently as well, someone I called a sister. It hurts yes, but some times we just grow apart I guess. I would have continued the friendship...This person, is plain old MEAN. I agree with the others, try to move on and let this not hurt...this person must be very troubled. xo